One of the most important things to me, as a sub, is to make my SIR proud of me, and to make sure that when other Sir’s report back to my SIR, it’s only to say good things (e.g. “You’ve trained Your boy well!”). I never want my SIR to be embarrassed by my behavior as HIS sub.
Hearing SIR call me a good boy is all I need to hear on my worst days to feel better, and to perk right up and feel better. This means that, as a sub, I always act as if SIR is watching me…because all I want to be is HIS good boy 🙂
I’ve had Doms in the past who would use various monitoring tools. These included daily journaling, random photo check-ins (e.g. “let me see your cage and hold out three fingers, let me see your cage and your watch, let me see your cage and hold out one finger and one bent finger, etc.). My SIR is also able to track my location based on my apple watch/iPhone. My SIR will continue to figure out how HE wants to control me (which is one of my favorite parts of our relationship).
If SIR wanted to, I would hand over my phone and let HIM see my messages on Twitter, Recon, Grindr or Sniffies (I use these apps to stay connected to the gay community, not to hook up). The only thing SIR will ever see is me referring to other Sirs appropriately (e.g., capital Sir but not SIR which is exclusively for HIM), being respectful to other Sirs/Doms, and also maintaining the limits that SIR has set (e.g. when other Doms ask me for money, I let them know that Sir controls my finances in our BDSM relationship).
Being a sub isn’t about being a mindless drone, it’s about a shared understanding of where power is in the relationship, and making sure that you’re honoring that commitment. One of the easiest ways of doing that is by acting like SIR is always watching: how would SIR feel if I did this? If it isn’t proud, it shouldn’t be done.